I’m a product of the 80’s so I’m in that unique time frame where we grew up without technology during the formative years. I remember when we got dial-up internet for the first time, cordless phones, cell phones, smart phones, cd’s, ipod’s…I didn’t grow up with those things attached to me like a third appendage….and I LOVE that. I love that I got to experience the coming of technology the way I did because it keeps me grounded now.
Knowing what life was like pre-iphone is such a blessing and one that most kids now, will never know. My childhood was spent PLAYING outside, riding bikes, swimming, making up games to play with neighbors who to this day are more like family. Don’t get me wrong, I do love technology (hello, the irony is not lost in that you’re reading this most likely from a handheld device) but I also loathe it.
I love that it keeps me connected and that there are endless sources of information and entertainment for FREE right at my fingertips. I love keeping up with friends and family and using my social media presence to connect with and help so many people. But I hate what it’s doing to our society and our kids.
Our world has turned into a ‘look at me’ ‘look what I have’ ‘I can do it better’ ‘my life is perfect’ high light reel and frankly, it pisses me off. NO ONE’S life is perfect. Those gorgeous photos on Instagram or Pinterest with the perfectly posed children in matching outfits, perfectly maintained home, perfect messy bun with the quaint-ness little outfit on to ‘run to Target with my BFF (aka, the baby)’ make me want to puke. Seriously. You know it took them 526 pictures to get the best one. Who has time for that crap?
While I certainly appreciate a gorgeous picture and have my own professional photos taken for my sites, that is NOT real, everyday life.
I can’t stand the way it has morphed our society into one of comparison. Comparison robs you of your joy. The end.
K, not really, I’m super long winded, duh.
But seriously, get off social media for bit, look your family and friends in the eyes when you are with them. Quit comparing your life to someone else’s. I assure you, they have struggles too! At the very least, if you are following certain people and find yourself feeling badly because you don’t measure up….quit flipping following them! Follow those who lift you up, provide guidance, support, fun, leadership, etc.
If you were to check my Instagram list, you’d see a bunch of workout people that I follow and with good reason. They are either, 1) already at the level I’m trying to achieve or 2) provide great content that helps me personally, physically and/or business wise. That’s it. I don’t follow people who don’t add value. Except for The Rock and Kevin Hart..the way they banter back and forth is hilarious. 😉
At this time, our girls are 9 and they do not have any form of social media and won’t in the foreseeable future.
My point is this: social media can be wonderful. I mean, hello, you’re here! BUT when you find yourself playing the comparison game, it’s time to take a step back. Particularly if you’re one of those people who is constantly complaining about not having enough hours in the day. Really? Really? Because I see your posts all over Facebook. Clearly you’ve got time. Even if it’s ‘real quick’ to ‘check something,’ BS. That’s time right there and it ads up, folks. And believe me, I’m not immune to it.
If you have time to scroll, that’s time you could be listening to a podcast, reading a book, doing something that will get you closer to a goal you’re working on, marking something off your to-do list, praying, exercising, cleaning something, etc.
I’m not saying to never be on social media, not hardly. But be intentional with your time. I’m not sure about Android devices but our iPhone’s have this handy little eye opening, makes you say OMG ‘screen activity report’ each week. If you haven’t looked at yours, you might wanna. If you have teens, you might implement a technology free night, one night a week. No phones, tablets, tv or anything. Have an actual meal at the table together, TALK. A rule I’ve implemented this year is to put down the phone completely if someone is talking to me. Turn it over and don’t touch it until the convo is over. If one of my girls comes up to me and I’m in the middle of something, I do one of two things; set the down immediately or if it’s something I need to finish, I tell them “hang on one second for me to finish this because I want to hear what you have to say” and then I finish the task, put the phone down and look them in the eye and listen. And sometimes it’s super inconvenient or what they want to say is pure ridiculousness (have you heard the stuff that comes out of a 9 year olds mouth?!) but they need to know that they are more important than a stupid device, email or social media post.
We all want our kids to talk to us, right? It starts with US. Lead by example.
I don’t have it all figured out and don’t pretend to. I’m learning as I go. But I know that I want my girls to grow up like I did so they can look back and have awesome childhood memories. I want them to know what it’s like to play and use their imaginations and that will never happen if they are glued to a device all day. #notsorryintheleast